What If the Delay Is the Blessing?

What if the delay is giving you time to heal parts of your life that feel out of alignment — your relationship, your home, your finances, your sense of self?

What if this delay isn’t a denial, but a sacred invitation to create the stability and safety your future child needs to arrive?

What if your intuition has been quietly guiding you to tend to areas you’ve overlooked while chasing answers for your fertility?

What if this waiting season is not a punishment, but a preparation — for the mother you are becoming, and the life you’re meant to create?

What if the delay is a divine redirection — aligning you with the right people, places, and timing because there’s a greater purpose unfolding beyond what you can see?

Divine timing isn’t just about when something happens — it’s about how, why, and even if it’s meant to happen at all.

In many spiritual traditions, divine timing is seen as the orchestration of the universe (or God) working in ways beyond our human understanding. It’s not about delay or denial, but alignment — the right pieces falling into place, the right lessons being learned, the right version of you being shaped. Sometimes what we deeply desire doesn’t arrive in the way we imagined because something wiser is unfolding. Divine timing teaches us that our lives are not on pause — they’re being prepared. And when we surrender control and trust that what is meant for us will never miss us, we soften into the truth that we are already being guided, even in the waiting.

We rarely see it at the time, but sometimes the deepest pain — the waiting, the loss, the unanswered questions — is the very thing that saves us.

When I was in the thick of my infertility journey, all I could see was the next opportunity to fall pregnant. I didn’t want to look left or right, let alone within. I was consumed by the desperation, and honestly, the need to escape everything else that felt unbearable in my life.

I used to think I was being punished. That my body was broken. That God had forgotten about me.

But now, 13 years on, I can see something entirely different. I can see divine timing. I can see protection. I can see grace.

Back then, my finances were in shambles.

I didn’t have a stable home.

I was in a toxic, abusive relationship.

And I had no real sense of who I was. I was living for someone else — bending, breaking, abandoning myself just to keep the peace.

And yet, in the middle of that chaos, I wanted a baby. I needed a baby.

Looking back now, I ask my younger self:

Why? What were you thinking?

Was it because a baby would have given me something to focus on when everything else felt like it was falling apart?

Was it because I thought motherhood would fix what felt broken inside me?

I didn’t realise at the time that what I truly needed was me. I needed to heal. I needed to rebuild. I needed to come back home to myself — and to God.

And while I still carry grief, especially for the babies I lost, I now understand that there was a bigger plan. A safer time. A more aligned version of me waiting on the other side. Or is this another coping mechanism to help me make sense of things?

So if you’re in the waiting right now… If your heart aches every month… If you feel like God is silent — Please know: delayed does not mean denied.

Sometimes the delay is the blessing.

Sometimes, it’s love in disguise. Sometimes it’s God saying, “There’s more for you. Let me make space for it.”

Have you ever looked back and realised that what felt like the worst delay was actually a turning point?

Reflection Exercise: When “No” Meant “Not Yet”

Take a quiet moment. Breathe deeply. Place your hand on your heart or your womb — wherever you feel most connected. Then ask yourself:

1. Can you remember a time in your life when you deeply wanted something — a job, a relationship, a home — and it didn’t happen?

2. How did it feel at the time? What emotions came up? What story did you tell yourself about that experience?

3. Now looking back, what do you see differently? Did something better, more aligned, or more healing come instead?

4. What might that experience have been preparing you for — emotionally, spiritually, or practically?

5. How can that past moment of clarity help you trust the timing of your life right now?

Let whatever comes up rise gently — without judgment. Sometimes healing is simply remembering how far we’ve come and how deeply we’ve been held, even in the no’s and the not yets.

You’re not alone in this waiting.