Your Body Isn’t Working Against You
If someone asked you how you were today, would your answer be, “I’m fine”?
And if it is… are you really?
Because so many of us have become experts at saying we’re fine while carrying stress, grief, overwhelm, exhaustion, disappointment, fear, or emotions we’ve never truly allowed ourselves to feel.
Every experience we move through leaves an imprint. Some experiences uplift us, while others weigh heavily on us. Over time, unspoken emotions, chronic stress, grief, trauma, and the pressures of everyday life can begin to shape the way we think, feel, and move through the world.
These experiences don’t just live in the mind. They can influence the nervous system, the body, our behaviours, and the way we respond to life.
Sometimes we recognise the impact immediately. Other times, we become so accustomed to carrying the weight that we no longer notice it’s there.
Until the body begins asking us to pay attention.
Trauma Is More Than Just a Memory
Studies in fields like somatic psychology show us that emotional trauma, especially when unprocessed, doesn’t just "go away." It lodges itself into the nervous system and can influence everything from hormonal balance to immune function.
A traumatic past, for example, doesn’t just end when we leave the situation or person. If the betrayal, fear, shame or powerlessness isn't truly healed, it can quietly begin to manifest in the body.
Over time, these can show up as:
Stomach and digestive issues (linked to anxiety and gut-brain disruption)
Skin conditions (from internal inflammation and repressed emotions)
Hair loss (linked to low self esteem or shock)
Irregular menstrual cycles or painful periods (trauma stored in the womb space)
Pcos, Endometriosis and fertility challenges
Exhaustion or adrenal fatigue (chronic fight-or-flight)
Low immune system (emotional exhaustion)
And over time, the body starts to show more serious imbalances such as diabetes, high blood pressure, autoimmune conditions, inflammation.
When You Feel That Your Body Is Working Against You
One person came to me once because they couldn’t sleep. They’d been struggling with insomnia for years. Their mind was constantly racing, they woke throughout the night, and no matter how tired they were, they couldn’t seem to switch off.
When I asked them about stress, their answer was immediate.
“I’m not stressed.”
Their life looked manageable on the surface. They were functioning, working, caring for their family, and getting on with things. But as we explored things more deeply, another story emerged.
Their partner had ongoing health challenges and relied heavily on them. They were the organiser, the carer, the emotional support person, finances. They carried the responsibility of making sure everyone else was okay, but rarely stopped to ask themselves the same question.
Beneath the surface was exhaustion, grief, worry, and the constant pressure of feeling like there was no one they could lean on.
They had become so accustomed to carrying everything that it no longer registered as stress.
As they began speaking honestly about what they were experiencing, setting boundaries, and creating space for their own needs, something shifted. Their circumstances didn’t magically disappear, but their body no longer had to work so hard to hold everything in.
Another person came to me after being diagnosed with high blood. They were doing everything they had been advised to do, but they couldn’t understand why their body seemed to be under so much strain.
Again, they described themselves as “fine.”
But over time, it became clear they were holding years of unspoken emotion. Decades worth of stress and anxiety they had never fully processed. Resentment they didn’t feel allowed to express. Responsibilities they felt obligated to carry. They were the strong one. The dependable one. The person everyone turned to.
They had spent so long suppressing their feelings that they had become disconnected from them altogether.
It didn’t surprise me of how little permission they had ever given themselves to be vulnerable, because I was also once the person who had to suppress my emotions and keep pushing through.
The body and mind are not separate. While emotional stress is not necessarily the cause of every health condition, our thoughts, emotions, experiences, and nervous system all influence the way we move through life.
Sometimes healing begins with a supplement, a treatment, or a medical intervention. Sometimes it begins with a conversation. Sometimes it begins with finally saying the thing you’ve been carrying for years.
And sometimes the greatest shift comes from realising that what you’ve called “coping” was actually surviving.
Fertility and the Spiritual Body
Unexplained infertility is one of the most emotionally exhausting journeys because there’s often no clear reason why. You’ve done the tests. You’ve tracked the cycles. You’ve taken the supplements. And still… no answers.
But what if the answers aren't just physical?
You see, the womb is not just a reproductive space, it is a spiritual container.
We hold so much emotion in our wombs: past relationships, ancestral pain, trauma, shame, identity, hope, loss, rage, unspoken grief.
Through my years of supporting women, I’ve witnessed so many breakthroughs, not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually.
For some, healing came from closing an old chapter. For others, it was speaking the truth out loud. Some were so exhausted from constantly carrying their partner & relationship. Some had to change habits. Others had to walk away from something toxic. Some simply had to wait… while their energy prepared for something they couldn’t yet see. And for many, it meant surrendering to a different path entirely…
Each story was different. But one thing was always the same: Healing happened when awareness and energy began to move.
I’ve walked that road too. For nearly 20 years, I struggled with unexplained infertility. I’ve experienced multiple miscarriages and 2 late term losses. No real answers. No reason why my body was just not able to stay pregnant or why there were complications. Doctors used to tell me it could be related to stress but I just kept saying I’m fine. Maybe they saw something I couldn’t see. For so long, I believed I had everything under control. My life seemed fine on the surface… but looking back, I wonder… was I just too deep in it to see the chaos? Or was I simply not ready to admit how much pain I was carrying?
Sometimes, when we’re in the thick of survival, we convince ourselves we’re coping. It’s only when things begin to unravel or heal that we realise how much we were holding in, and how deeply it was shaping us.
Energy That Doesn't Move, Festers
Energy needs to flow. Just like water. When it doesn’t, it stagnates, hardens, and creates internal pressure. This is where we see emotional suppression turn into physical symptoms.
Suppressed anger may explode into rage or turn inward as self-sabotage. Suppressed guilt may lead to chronic illness, shoulder pain, trouble breathing, insomnia, poor self-worth, or isolation. Suppressed stress can show up as constant flu, weight gain, irregular periods. All the things we never say out loud… they sit with us.
Over time, if we don’t acknowledge or shift this energy, it grows roots. What was once a feeling becomes a pattern. A symptom. A condition. A block.
You’ve likely felt it before: That sudden shift in a room. That subtle discomfort in someone’s presence. That sense that something isn’t right with no words to explain it. That’s the energy speaking. It may not be logical. But it’s real. And it’s time we listen.
How Do You Shift Suppressed Energy?
The first step is often much simpler than people expect.
It’s honesty.
Being honest about how you feel. Being honest about what you’re carrying. Being honest about what is no longer working.
So many of us have become experts at saying, “I’m fine.”
We keep going. We push through. We take care of everyone else. We convince ourselves we’re coping.
But healing often begins the moment we stop pretending.
When emotions, stress, grief, resentment, fear, or exhaustion have been sitting beneath the surface for years, they need somewhere to go. They need movement. They need expression. They need to be witnessed.
There is no single path to releasing what you’ve been carrying, but some practices that can help include:
Talking openly and feeling truly heard
Journaling and self-reflection
Breathwork, meditation, and nervous system regulation
Movement such as walking, dancing, yoga, or stretching
Creativity through writing, painting, music, or art
Energy healing, Reiki, or somatic therapies
Sound healing, chanting, or singing
Spending time in nature
Prayer, ritual, or spiritual practices that feel meaningful to you
Allowing yourself to cry, laugh, rest, or simply feel what has been asking to be felt
The goal isn’t to force healing.
The goal is to create enough safety within yourself that what has been suppressed no longer needs to stay hidden.
Sometimes the biggest energetic shift doesn’t come from doing more.
It comes from finally allowing yourself to tell the truth about what you’re carrying.
The Path to Harmony
Healing is rarely about finding one magic solution.
More often, it’s about creating enough safety, awareness, and support for the body to do what it was designed to do.
Whether that support comes through counselling, energy work, sound healing, acupuncture, meditation, movement, spiritual guidance, or a combination of approaches, the goal is the same: to bring the body, mind, and spirit back into harmony.
Each modality offers a different doorway. Some help you process emotions. Some support the nervous system. Some encourage energetic flow. Some reconnect you with your intuition and sense of self.
The path will look different for everyone.
What matters is finding the practices, people, and support systems that help you feel seen, heard, safe, and connected.
Because when the body no longer feels like it has to fight, protect, or carry everything alone, something begins to soften.
And in that softening, there is space for healing, possibility, and sometimes even the unexpected.
My message to you
You are not broken. You are not behind.
This is not punishment, and you are not cursed.